The premise of The Rules is that, as unfeminist as it sounds, a woman should do absolutely nothing to start a relationship.The worst that can happen is that he will say yes and date you, leading you to believe that you are in a relationship before eventually ditching you for the woman he really likes - probably one who has followed the Rules. For example, a 30-year-old should wait 12 hours and a 40-plus-year-old should wait a day to reply.

They also cite that discipline and consideration inform the actions which create egalitarian relationships. In 2001 the follow-up book The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work was released in the midst of Fein's legal separation from her husband to whom she had been married for sixteen years.

announced the upcoming publication of a fifth book by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, the authors of the dreaded dating-advice book “The Rules” and its spawn. Don’t accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday. Be easy to live with (but—and here’s the kicker—don’t live with a man or leave your things at his apartment).

Another criticism is that because The Rules advise rarely returning phone calls and other such hard-to-get dating methods, some men may have trouble telling the difference between a woman who is genuinely not interested (or not interested anymore) and one who is genuinely interested, thus leading to misunderstandings and stalkers; not only for women using The Rules, but any man who believes all women are playing similar games even when they are not.

Proponents of the methods offered in the book point to The Rules as having positive results for both men and women.

Welke opties voor jouw bestelling beschikbaar zijn, zie je bij het afronden van de bestelling.

The Rules taught a generation of women how to turn their dating misery into marriage success.

Presents strategies on how to meet someone and conduct a successful relationship online, from choosing the best screen names and posting personal ads to juggling e-mail and phone calls, offering advice on avoiding common pitfalls and enabling a permanent relationship. Na hun bestsellers The Rules en The Rules II hebben auteurs Ellen Fein en Sherry Schneider een derde deel uitgebracht: The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Hearth of Mr. De schrijfsters starten het boek met een pleidooi voor online dating: het lijkt eng, je wilt niet dat je buren je profiel op internet opmerken, maar het loont de moeite.

Fein en Schneider willen je op weg helpen met je eerste internetdatingervaringen.

They represent the point of view that men enjoy being the aggressor and are inspired to treat women better who choose behaviors which set up boundaries and slow down the courtship process.