So, if you've exchanged a couple flirtatious messages with a potential mate, established a basic foundation of things you have in common and are somewhat assured that it's worth testing the waters with a meet-up, take the plunge and ask her to hang out.First meetings, especially those catalyzed on the Internet don’t have to be complicated, but there are a few caveats to heed prior to jumping in.

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Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.

“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.

Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.

It's always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face.

This is perfectly understandable, and you shouldn’t meet anyone if you’re unsure or uncomfortable about it.

The same safety rules apply to a coffee date as any other date; check in with a friend before and after and make sure you have enough money to get home.

To have the best possible time, while preserving your physical and mental wellbeing, read on.

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Q: Is it OK to ask detailed questions like “Where do you work? After meeting and deciding that there is interest on both sides, however, it’s fine to let those questions fly—just keep in mind that your effort to get to know each other better doesn’t require nitty gritty specifics. A: Since it was your very first face-to-face, it’s possible your date didn’t feel sparks flying either—in which case it’s fine for you both to just fade away.