They are not considered binding for the youth movement’s other 10,000-odd members, but do represent the movements’ highest ideals — covering observance of Shabbat and kashrut, and participation in regular Jewish study and synagogue services.

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However, part of what I wanted to discuss is the intensity of feeling on the anti-intermarriage side.

While I agree with the commenters who pointed out that it's my life to live and not my parents, I think they mostly didn't understand exactly how upsetting an intermarriage would be to my parents.

There were people on each side and it was a good discussion.

Many people need desperately to receive this message: I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. --Vonnegut In response to my earlier post about intermarriage and interdating, the comments were uniformly civil and reasoned.

A 32-year-old literature professor at CUNY, Schwartz came here from Israel seven years ago and was enchanted by the gentility and ladylike manners of American women; but when it came to dating them, he kept smashing into invisible walls. “Every little thing you do or don’t do is judged — from the particular vocabulary you use, to the money you spend, to the frequency of your calls.

You are constantly put to the test.” Compared to Israeli dating, where things are generally taken at face value, this was very difficult, he said.

A few dozen Jewish teens compelled North American Jewry to collectively groan “Oy gevalt” in a chattering digital chorus this week.

After a passionate debate until am at the annual international United Synagogue Youth convention in Atlanta Monday, in the culmination of a year’s research and study, some 42 USY leaders voted to amend its standards of leadership, adding clauses dealing with bullying and But the subject that has the Jewish world abuzz is the amended language for the clause dealing with interdating.

You worry that interdating now will increase the likelihood that your kids will intermarry later. As you discuss interdating with your children, keep these things in mind. Estimates suggest that high school sweethearts comprise only 2% of new marriages, and a 2006 Harris Interactive survey found that only 14% of 18-27-year-olds met their partner in high school or college.

Given the high levels of young adult dating violence, it’s more important that your child is in a healthy relationship than a relationship with someone of the same faith. Answer “yes” to some or all of these questions and it’s likely that your children have a solid Jewish identity and will make Jewish choices regardless of their partner’s religious identity. Prohibiting interdating won’t make Judaism important to your children, and unless you arrange their dates, you have little control over the identity of their romantic partners. Talk to your teens about why Judaism and its continuation are important to you.

After three exasperatingly cautious dates and a month of coy e-mail exchanges, I got tired of beating around the bush and wrote Orie, my American prospect. “I just did,” I replied, “but the book I know is in Hebrew.” Of all the social mazes an immigrant must navigate when assimilating to a new, unfamiliar culture, dating is one of the most labyrinthine.