You see, I have a unique perspective – I’ve not only dated hundreds of women (before I became happily married) but I’m a coach for both women and men. Suddenly, the editors were on the phone with a question: “Funny list, but what about a list for women? It’s not that I was above it; rather, I never even thought about it. You graduated summa cum laude from an Ivy League masters program? I think a lot of women reading your blog are concerned about more than just getting a 2nd date. And from the guys I’ve known, it seems that they care more about sexiness and lightness when it comes to deciding to have LTRs with women.And I’ve had countless nice, decent, relationship-oriented guys tell me why it SEEMED like they really liked a woman but then bailed on her. I finally cobbled something together with the help of some friends.

You think you're smarter, deeper, different, or that you have more evolved beliefs and priorities than them.

The other side is seeing everyone else as having a bunch of negative traits, that they're dumb, shallow, and selfish.

But after reading Mail Online's interview with size 24 Verity Brown, who has struggled to find a man on dating websites because she is overweight, Paula maintains that it was even harder for her to find a partner on the same sites because men simply saw her as a trophy.'I decided to try it because all of the sites guarantee to match you up with someone who shares your interests, so it's more about personality, and I was fed up with all of the men in the bars looking for skirt.

Paula Jayne struggled to find a decent man in nightclubs, because they were always 'chasing skirt.' The mother-of-two thought dating sites would be the answer to her problems but found they attracted similar kinds of men.

[Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never like you back] But for love to blossom in the first place, you need to build the sexual attraction before you make him fall in love with you.

It’s the safest way to make sure the guy falls for you and stays in love with you.To truly understand how to attract men and how a man’s mind works, we need to get deeper into the concept of attraction from the male point of view.How to attract men in a way they can’t resist A guy may like a girl for different reasons, but when it comes to physical or sexual attraction at first sight, her physical appearance and her behavior matters more than anything else.After one date, after three dates, after three months… But it left me thinking: Why would I choose not to go out with a woman a second time? Drinking habits, driving habits, fashion choices – none of them enter the equation. Amazingly, the reasons are always the same – and they were the very same reasons I’d pulled away from many surprised, confused women myself… Here’s what I came up with: She wasn’t physically attractive to me. You’re seeing a great guy and you THINK you’re getting close, but then he suddenly pulls away and you have NO IDEA what happened. She’d put it together in a few hours over a few glasses of wine with her girlfriends. Because when you compare the number of factors that determine whether a guy is date-worthy with the number of factors that determine whether you’re date-worthy, it’s night and day. Men ask two questions: Do I want to sleep with you? All of this is just a long way of stating what every man knows – and most women don’t: We are not nearly as concerned with your merits as much as how you make us FEEL. If you’re fun and easygoing, it makes us enjoy our time together. It makes us want to keep you around forever and ever. My husband has a male friend who broke up with his girlfriend because supposedly, she wasn’t up to his intellectual level.