” It's complicated, even though we don't have any children or shared assets.

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But still being married to him is a whole other level of embarrassment. When you tell people—dates or otherwise—you’re separated, they ask the following questions, in this order: “How long have you been separated?

” When I tell them it’s been over a year now, the next question is always, “So how come you’re not divorced yet?

In other words, what exactly is a separated man or divorced man?

What are they going through, and what should you be concerned about if you’re in a relationship with a man who might be in a given stage of divorce or separation?

Unfortunately (or fortunately…depending on how you look at it), there is no simple mathematical equation, or test, or quiz that can predict whether or not your relationship will be a lasting success.

Our life is an —not a foregone conclusion (and that’s a good thing! But the more aware you are of what, potentially, you’re getting into when you enter a relationship, the better you can mitigate your chances of heartbreak and relationship disaster.

For starters, we’re legally married in two countries (France and the U.

S.), which makes for some long, drawn-out paperwork.

That way, should the topic come up later, I can actually say, “Oh, I told you, didn’t I? I struggle enough with the fact that my marriage came to an end after just a year and a half, that my husband cheated on me, and left me for a girl 28 years his junior, just two years older than his daughter from a previous marriage.

I guess you just didn’t hear me.”Being married, but separated, is no picnic. All of that is embarrassing, no matter how you slice it or how many times friends and family tell me that he’s the one who should be embarrassed.

Decide wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.