A few points to consider: He actually wants you to say .In the beginning of the dating chase, men are looking to get laid, but they're also looking to make a connection.

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Plus, the studies have been conducted on very specific samples: married heterosexual couples and college-aged men and women.

Few studies have taken a look at the health of a relationship as it relates to when the couple first had sex. Back in the early 2000s, Illinois State University communications professor Sandra Metts did a study to find out if having an emotional connection — in particular saying “I love you” before having sex — could have a positive impact on the trajectory of the relationship.

The situation can make you feel helpless because he's dictating how serious the relationship gets. During the time before you have intercourse, he's fully under your spell.

The longer you hold off, the more intrigued he'll become, allowing you to set the pace and control how things develop.

Like many relationships, the answer is a little complicated.

One of the reasons it’s so hard to determine the best time in a relationship to have sex is because there haven’t been a ton of studies that address that specific question.

Research has given us the answers to several of our biggest sex questions, from how often couples should have sex in a relationship (it depends on your sex drive) to whether having more sex will make you happier.

(It usually won't.) But when is the optimal time to start being sexually intimate in a relationship?

That's why it's important to postpone sex for as long as you can -- I say at least a month.

I know it's hard to resist when the attraction is so intense, but trust me, it'll pay off in the end.

In my book I talk about being able to trust as an important ingredient in being able to have emotionally-connected sex with another person.