You love her, you really do, but sometimes you'd like some . With about 50% of marriages ending in divorce, many reporting infidelity as the reason, some couples are challenging the boundaries of traditional relationships in order to keep the spark. You're not the only one playing video games well into the night to get that chick at the office out of your head.

I get that it can be hard for a lot of people to understand.

But it works for us, and it’s not as unusual as it seems. An open relationship is a form of non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term for any physical or romantic partnership that is not predicated on exclusivity. In this article I’m focusing on what Adam and I are and do: a committed couple that takes lovers.

You will be attracted to people outside your relationship Having an open relationship has never been my goal, but I’m not going to bury my head in romantic sand.

The truth is that staying monogamous is a challenge.

We were both always aware of the existence of other lovers, but it was clear that we were each other's favorite.

It occurred to us that we could keep the excitement and variety, and still let ourselves fall in love with each other. And since then I’ve gotten a lot of questions about how we make it work and why we would even do that in the first place.

In fourth grade, I got in trouble with my boyfriend because he found out I had another boyfriend.

Throughout high school and college, some of my relationships overlapped, and some were purely dishonest.

It's tough to suppress that natural "hunter" instinct.

Or maybe you'd like to see or hear how someone else responds to your moves.

Call them cheaters, swingers, or "whatever couples"—the bottom line is these couples buck monogamy for a more open approach to their relationship.