If there’s a crisis with your lover’s ex and the kids need to come over, or little Johnny has a hockey game, your plans will need to take a backseat.

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My life was about to change so rapidly, I barely had time to consider the compromises I was making, or appreciate all the wonderful things I was gaining in exchange.

From the get-go, Daniel was clear that he and his 2-year-old daughter came as a package.

Perhaps you’ve got a demanding job/yoga schedule/pet and maybe your childfree adventures allow you to keep busy—you’re golden.

Your new love can—and should—always make time for you when they’re able to, but don’t take it personally when things with the kiddos come up, because it’s not about you.

We couldn’t have a relationship unless I accepted that.

I agreed to give things a go, knowing that if it didn’t work out, it would be far worse than the usual break up, because we had a toddler’s feelings to contend with, as well as our own.We make a beautiful family, and we love each other. Because while dating someone with kids can be amazing in so many ways, don’t ever think it’ll be easy. You wanted to get away for the weekend but you forgot it’s over Mother’s Day because, newsflash, you’re not a mom?But don’t be misled: this is the most challenging thing I have ever done. You should know a few things before you flail carelessly into infatuation like that basejumper guy in the squirrel suit with that awesome song. A parent’s responsibility is to their kids first, always, and that will never change. Be aware your plans will always need to be flexible.I fell in love at 25 with Daniel, a recently separated single parent, who I’d known (and secretly adored) since my teens.His previous relationship had been turbulent, and his ex had left the country with her older children (from a previous relationship), leaving Daniel and their child behind.Should I be concerned about marrying someone with children if I don’t have any?